Theclaritycatalyst

Tag: mental-health

  • True Friends: The Treasure of Lifelong Bonds

    True Friends: The Treasure of Lifelong Bonds

    Hi to all, hope you are doing good. Thanks for showing interest in my blog, keep visiting, liking and leaving your comments. Would love to connect.

    Today was thinking about a friend very dear to me so, thought to pour out my feelings about the importance of having a true friend.

    So, why do you think we need a friend? Why are friends so important? Who is a real friend?

    A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. – Walter Winchell

    A friend is a boon in anyone’s life. This is the only person who you select on your own by your own choice. This person is one, who doesn’t really judge you and neither do you. He/she is that one person you would love to pour your heart out without a doubt. A true friend is like a therapist, who hears you when you need to share something heavy or a soother when you are ailing. This person is someone, who without a thought will help you pour out whatever you have in you. He/she will then try to make you understand whether what you feeling is right or wrong. That’s what a true friend does. Do you guys feel the same?

    True friendship isn’t about being there when it’s convenient; it’s about being there when it’s not

    It is a boon to have that 1 friend in your life, with whom you can share your thoughts or clear your thoughts with. The best part of a friend is like, even if you don’t talk to that person each and every day once you talk, you connect like you were never disconnected. The best of friends will fight and reunite cause if there is no fight then it means you are not tight. A true friend is your best critic and an admirer too (very rare LOL), that’s why he/she is your best friend. Don’t you agree guys? For me friends hold a very important place in my life. I treasure my friends and always keep them very safe in my heart. Having a friend in life is like keeping the child in you alive. With friends you don’t have to behave in a certain way, rather you can be your freest self. You don’t have to think and speak, you are not calculative, manipulative, organized … You can just be you, and you can take that privilege with your friends always.

    The best time to make friends is before you need them – Ethel Barrymore

    Friends are never chosen by your needs they come along when you desire to have one. When you connect with a person in some way or the other you welcome a friend in your life. Also, true friends can bring a spark in your life in your darkest phase and pull you out from it. Their trust in you and the love for you keeps you connected with them though, you don’t have any blood relation. Friends come into your life with a purpose, to keep the inner child in you alive forever. You know you have a true friend when, you can feel your pain in their eyes and see your joys in their smile. I value friendship a lot and have many friends in my life, I respect their being in my life and so do they. The feeling of being a friend to someone is so nice that it’s beyond an explanation. When you are the person in that friend’s life who brings a smile on their face is what a true friendship is.

    Let me tell you a story of a friend of mine. When I was down with a severe COVID in the second wave, and I was struggling with it badly but fiercely. One night was really tough in that period, and I had really given up on my fight as it was really bad. That night I said a small prayer and gave in to the supreme power to take a decision for me. I don’t know that time I fell asleep, or I passed out. But next day when I woke up, I got a video call from a very dear friend of mine, and I was still lying on my bed and struggling to talk to her. She said, ‘you look so unwell I don’t like seeing you like this, you take care will talk to you later’. And while she was disconnecting the call I saw her wiping a drop of tear from her eye. That one gesture made me feel so good that it gave me a new zeal to fight back. So, this is the power of a true friend, they can bring that one spark in you that lets you overcome your fears and doubts.

    Friendship is like a treasure, its value is hard to measure,

    It becomes precious day by day, and makes you wealthy in a unique way.

    This was my story, and I hope you have your one too. Would love to know about yours. Please feel free to share that one person you get back to, when you are at your most vulnerable self. Would love to hear your story as well.

    Ciao.

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  • How do you practice self-care?

    Hi to you all.

    Self-care is caring of yourself first and then others, it sounds selfish and guilty but it’s important to be sane.

    So, if we are speaking of self-care, it is both mental and physical. Both are equally important for a sane life, in this chaotic world with all the responsibilities we individuals deal with. Physical self-care can give us and instant mood lift, it’s important to go for it when we get physically drained. Like taking a head massage, body massage, a quick warm/cold shower, listening to mood lifting music, star gaze, sit under a moonlit night, feel the plants, play with sand it can be anything that suits one’s liking.

    While mental self-care can make you stronger from inside out as you have better control over yourself. Here, one can practice meditation, talking to your inner self to understand what is hurting you, healing yourself and bouncing back with a fully charged self. Talking to a best friend or sharing what is hurting to someone who you trust more than yourself can also be considered.

    So, how do I practice self-care? Me being a very positive and happy go lucky person, self-care comes easy to me. A small hug from someone I love soothes my soul well. But if, I am hurting or ailing from within, I don’t mind talking to a dear friend and unload myself. And if it’s something I don’t want to share with someone, I sit with myself and analyze the situation that hurt me. This art of self-analysis when I practice gives me so much control on myself that it heals me wonderfully.

    I usually derive small pleasures from life so much that my inner soul already a happy one stays that way. I can pep myself up by listening to music, watching nature, playing with my pets, watching a cartoon etc. So, in short, it’s you and only you who can keep yourself safe from letting people hurt you. Also, it’s only your choice to keep ailing if hurt, or get yourself healed as quick as possible. So, keep self-caring as and when needed to keep yourself good.

    Ciao.

  • Life’s Meaning: A Beautiful Exploration

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    We often come across this question as what is life?

    It’s somewhat a little difficult to define life unless we have lived it. Life is a gift from God so as to live it, we got to value it, appreciate and accept it. Being a Sadguru fan, I heard him saying in one of his posts that the reality that you are having a life at first place is a thing to appreciate. And I truly believe in it; we are alive and having a life is a thing to cherish. Also if we see around us anything that has life is so beautiful be it a small spurt of a root and a shoot from a seed looks so beautiful, the transformation of a larva to a full blown insect is so magnificent, a tree full of fruits or flowers so pleasing, a small chicken cracking out of an eggshell is so amazing and if we come to us humans what can be more wonderful than the birth of a child signifying a life coming into being. So, if we look at it this way that anything that has a life signifies the beauty of life.

    So how can one define life? Life can have its own definition to each self. Like I was hearing a podcast of Sudha Murthy where when asked how she will define life she said, “everybody have their own way of defining life as it is with respect to their experiences”. Such beautifully explained and so true as well as it is totally up to us to define our own life. Because if we don’t have a definition to our life then we are just existing in this world with no meaning to what we want from our life. We humans, being the most intelligent living being on this earth, live with some or the other goal or a purpose in our lives and that becomes the most important existential reason for us. So, to the people who understand this enjoy living their life and for those who don’t start doubting themselves and get into existential crisis. But why? Why do we start having existential crisis? Why can’t we find a purpose or a meaning to our existence? This is because we start to compare our life with others looking at their achievements and not understanding the value of the hard work or the struggles of that person. We like to see the brighter side of everything so that we find a reason to crave for it in us. But have we ever tried to see the or understand that person’s determination to attain those achievements. The answer would be mostly no. Why because, then how will we self-pity ourselves and totally understandable it’s a human nature. But no, that’s not how it is we do have a choice, and the choice is to stop comparing our lives with that of others and try to do whatever we can from our side to make it beautiful in our own way. The day we stop comparing ourselves to others, we evolve as a more confident and accomplished person and find a new meaning to our life that can have a definition of its own.

    So, if someone asks me to define life, I would like to sum it up as a beautiful ship in the ocean where we are the sailor, the ship is our life, and the ocean is the circumstances/challenges around us. So now if the sailor knows how to maneuver his/her ship in the high and low tides of the ocean as in where to slow down and speed up a little to maneuver the ships way through the ocean he will have a safe and happy sail. And suppose the sailor starts to race with a passing ship whose sailor is a little more efficient and knows to maneuver his/her ship a little better than us then we might get into trouble and start feeling helpless. This helplessness usually comes when we don’t take balanced decisions involving both our mind and our soul. Like when we listen to our heart and think emotionally and we fail we start to doubt ourselves thinking we are emotional fools and if we take the decisions based on our mind and we fail we start to think that we are overthinkers. So, it always has to be a balanced decision that we should take thinking both practically and emotionally and that ways we will learn to listen to both our mind and soul. Also, by doing so we will learn to find a balance in our lives and start to appreciate it better and learn to value it even more.